Holding Space For Healing & Growth
Stepping Back to Heal & Moving Ahead to Grow
Often, I find myself experiencing two contrasting emotions simultaneously. On one hand, there’s a strong desire to heal, which leads to moments of tears, frustration, and seeking answers to perplexing issues. On the other hand, there’s an equally strong drive to grow, taking on responsibilities, making plans, strategizing, and doing everything possible to progress, even though the destination is uncertain. This emotional rollercoaster feels somewhat like recovering from a life-changing event, even though it’s not a physical injury.
At times, I reflect on how my capacity for both these emotions has expanded. I find myself crying more intensely, experiencing a depth of sadness that’s hard to explain. Simultaneously, I feel a burning urge to move forward, to thrive, and to invite more magic into my life, as if I believe it’s already there, waiting for me.
Moving with Extremities Together
These two sets of extreme emotions often generate conflicting thoughts. The desire to move forward is typically the more practical, hopeful, and optimistic one, while the inclination to look back and heal is accompanied by sadness, which I fully embrace. I acknowledge the importance of honoring both sides because as much as I want to, I can’t disregard either. What I feel makes sense, and it’s valid.
What I’ve learned is that the key lies in balancing both these emotions. I can hold both glasses — the one for healing and the one for growth — and move forward.
I don’t need to wait for complete healing to make progress, nor should I rush ahead and leave healing for later. I care about myself, and I recognize how essential both aspects are for my well-being and existence.
Caring for Past, Present & Future
On some days, it might be tempting to simply forge ahead and bury my emotions, but I understand the dangers of doing so. Suppressing my feelings can be detrimental to my future. So, creating space for both healing and growth simultaneously is crucial, especially when emerging from a tumultuous period with an uncertain future.
In this state, all I need to do is hold both glasses and fill them with my energy. Devoting time to healing stabilizes my present and focusing on growth prepares me for a brighter future.
Managing my life beautifully means tending to the past, living in the present, and looking forward to a promising future.
So, if you are stuck in life — hold space and breathe, allowing yourself time to heal and grow simultaneously because both are essential parts of this journey.
